Dating Again After a Hiatus
While it can be difficult to get back into the dating game, it is important to remember that everyone has to start somewhere. Do not feel discouraged in the beginning. Also, keep in mind that you must first be healed from the previous relationship before pursuing the new one. Not having healed mentally and emotionally from the previous relationship can lead to recurring issues in the new one.
Know Your Worth
Once you know your worth as an individual by yourself, you will know what you deserve from the next relationship. In the beginning, you may be worried about how to meet new people, knowing who to trust and who to let go and you may even be worried about if you’re confident enough to move on. A helpful tip to know if you are ready to move on or not is, as cheesy as it sounds, to look within yourself and ask yourself if you are “ready”. If you are hesitant, it is probably a safe bet you should take some more time. If you are not hesitant, do your thing in the dating game!
Stay Optimistic about the Future
Sometimes, past relationships can leave us skeptical of the future ones. Our minds can overthink and make us believe that our past was our “fault” but remember that relationships take two people to create/maintain or destroy them. Moving on partly means that you accept what happened and let go. Finding peace with what happened from the past can help you with the future. Without peace, your past can leave you bitter and wary of what is to come. One thing to keep in mind when exploring in the dating game is that it can be hard and what can be extremely helpful is talking to someone about it – friends or family – to help express your feelings/emotions to find a better understanding of what you are worried about.
Take it Easy
One major thing that people are worried about when getting back into dating is how to do it, so always keep in mind not to put too much pressure on yourself. In the dating game, you are getting to know different types of people and learning what you do and do not like in your potential next partner. Getting out to clubs, bars or going somewhere that reflects your hobbies may help you find someone new. Take it one step at a time and do not set your expectations too high. Another option is online dating. This can be tricky, but it’s a new way to explore more options and can broaden your options.
Just remember the key point to dating is take it easy. Take it one date at a time, a day at a time and one conversation at a time. Don’t rush into anything until you’re absolutely ready to move on and protect your feelings until you are absolutely sure that he/she is who you want to pursue your next relationship with whether it’s short or long term. Take chances and don’t overthink it.